We are constantly dishonest with ourselves about how we truly feel, how we truly think, about who we truly are. We are dishonest with the people around us, we are dishonest in our choices, in our decisions. We learn from a very young age to repress our true feelings, to compromise our true identity, in order to adapt to the requirements and expectations of our immediate social milieu. We inhibit our deepest needs and feelings in the hopes of being accepted by our family, friends, communities. It’s the only way to get by. The only way we are ever taught to get by.
And it’s all we do. We tell ourselves lies and we lie to our spouses, to our children, to our parents, to our friends, to our co-workers. Our entire identity in the present moment is a fabrication, a distorted version of what should have normally been. We have been repressing feelings, instincts, desires, intents our whole lives, and have basically split off into an alternative version of self, living a life that only slightly represents what we hold within, and who we truly are.
Our existence is a mixture of truth and lies. Our decisions, what we create, what we build, what we birth, what we influence, what we teach will be a mixture of truth and lies.
And we are quite open to external influences when it comes to fabricating these lies. We usually just adopt the lies that we are most exposed to, especially when we are most vulnerable – we will make ourselves believe anything in order to feel better.
And this leaves us open to external control. Others can basically control how we create, how we act, how we choose, by controlling the lies that we are exposed to. The more we buy the lies they sell to us, the more control they have over our minds and hearts, and implicitly, over the futures that we create. If they get a large enough number of us to believe them, they can grow a control system, where they manipulate the creative flow of an entire collective.
The only way to stay clear of external control, and truly step into our true authority and sovereignty as creators of our own realities, is to get in touch with our true feelings, our true thoughts, our true instincts and desires. We need to discover who we would’ve been had we allowed ourselves to evolve naturally, without the fear of disapproval, or the fear for our survival.
We need to peel off the layers upon layers of lies that we have accepted as our own, by becoming fully honest with ourselves, and vulnerable with the ones around us, and allowing our behavior to actually reflect what is within us. We need to step into our true identity, discover who was truly hiding within all this time, and give that internal self a chance to come out, to experience life, to create for the first time.
But this is not as easy as it sounds, in a society where we compete with each other in the lies that we tell – and for survival nonetheless. Vulnerability and authenticity are perceived both as as a threat and a weakness in a society built on control systems. Exchanging truths on a market that works primarily with lies is a massive challenge.
We are all made up of truths and lies (in different ratios), which means that we basically interact through two currencies at all times: truths and lies. When the predominant currency is the one of lies, the truth currency is left at a huge disadvantage. We have to go to great lengths just to find those who can exchange truths with us. Which is why the divide and conquer method works so well – in isolation from each other, we are outnumbered and overwhelmed, barely a threat. In order to exist here, in order to create, to co-create, to have relationships of any kind, we need to constantly interact with one another (directly and indirectly), and when our currency is the one at a disadvantage, and we struggle to find others who hold it, we are left with two options: either we learn how to survive and become self-sustainable on our own, in our own truth, or we compromise ourselves, and accept to exchange lies in order to stay alive.
Truths are solid, and untouchable, but in this reality, they are outnumbered by lies. And we are too isolated from one another to feel safe enough to stand in our own full truth, with absolute integrity, and know that we will be ok. And this terrifies us. We are all afraid of what could happen to us, and we keep compromising ourselves on a daily basis for false happiness, for false well-being, and false living, instead of exchanging the only currency that would make us happy – the truth.
And this keeps us in a merry-go-round ‘fight for survival’ loop, which we can’t seem to build up the courage to break out of. And who can blame us, going on what feels like a suicide mission is so unnatural, and so abusive on all levels, it isn’t something either one of us should ever have to consider. We should never have to stand alone.
This is why distance and isolation don’t work – we are so easily controlled and defeated by the system when we are alone in our fight for truth. Learning how to support and provide for one another, how to cooperate and share what we know, what we have, is the only way we can stand up for ourselves – there is truly so much power in numbers!
When will we understand that we are in this together? When will we emotionally grow up and own up to our lies? When will we grow the courage to pursue the truth, and actually support one another in doing so? Build communities where we are safe to be ourselves?
And when will we be brave enough to defend our right to be free to feel, free to think, free to bee? Even at the cost of our own lives? Why do we wait until there is nothing left to defend and nothing left to lose, to finally take action? Why do we allow lies to propagate to such a degree that they become the very threat to our own survival as a race, why do we take illusory shelter in our own bubbles of lies, instead of finding the courage to step out, and build bubbles of truth?